I know a very much about being contrasted ourselves with others and what that does to us, both the positive and the negative impacts. This is because I've been occupied with a lot number of comparisons than I can count. However, soon I was able to figure out how significantly more unmistakably when and how comparisons have breathed life into me, and furthermore where it's caused me to feel dreadful - envious, angry, and demotivated me.

I have heard many people advising me that comparison is good, since it motivates to you grow better than what your now. I do not disagree with these words but neither agree with these. I have into situations where I was compared with someone or other in every aspects of my style of living, and we better know about the people who make comparisons. I was compared from my way of eating to way of my talking. You know what, these obsessive comparisons made me debilitated and aggressive towards the people who compares me and with whom I was compared rather than motivating me.

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As the say goes, “Learning from someone is far better than following them”, that’s really true and I learnt from this. I just stopped listening to such petty comparisons and that has actually made much difference in my thinking. This realization is vitally significant on the grounds that it's a harming mix-up to look at the crude truth of your own existence with the exceptionally fictionalized, sterilized and "cleaned up" rendition of another's. No one can really tell what their life is about, what they're managing and the shrouded fights they face, and you never will know. So just, comparing yourself with someone how they appear to us is clearly absurd.

Frankly speaking, it is not your fault, it is society that trains us to compare ourselves utilizing external, socially developed proportions of "accomplishment" and value including beauty, age, weight, cash, economic well-being, conjugal status, and so on. Realize that these comparisons on us accomplish those measures that is being taken from old notes of the society, however in actuality, they're socially inferred thoughts that won't really bring you individual satisfaction, given your remarkable qualities and needs.

The most important thing is to comprehend is that there is an enormous contrast in vitality and result between observing others' prosperity and utilizing that vision to rouse you, as opposed to thrashing yourself brutally on the grounds that you're not where they are. In the event that comparison causes you to feel useless and dispirited, incapable to get what you need and "merit," and you disdain others for what they have, it's an ideal opportunity to quit contrasting or move on with your own way. It is on you, how you want be compared with others, in an advantageous or self-destructive manner.